My hypocritical boss
He said “maybe” means “must”, he said “may” means “certainly”, and he said “randomly” meant to implement what he meant.
You can never understand his trueness and correctness literally, otherwise you will wait to be punished with “disobedience to leadership.”
How can we, as subordinates, cope with such superficial migration and believing bosses?
Could this be just another sad office story with tears in laughter and laughter in pain?
First, minefield mines of false bosses1 When you are arguing fiercely over an issue, he will wave his hand impatiently, “Okay, you take care of it.
Detonator: You must not think that he has been conquered by your mouth, and willingly let go of the decision to you.
He was just annoyed that you were too slow to understand his off-string voice in time.
His subtext: “I mean, go back and think about it, think it over and come back and talk to me.
“Can’t eat, take a walk: You really did what you want.
When you are grateful for the decentralization and trust of your superiors in your heart, your superiors have written down in your heart, “No leadership, no intention.”
“-Oh my God, you are even more resentful than Dou E.
Mine 2 If you happen to run into the tea room, he seems to chat with you casually.
I greeted your husband first, praised your pet again, and finally downplayed the sentence mentioned above. It seems that your seat light is not too good. It is recommended that you do not prevent you from applying for a table lamp . wait until he passes byElegant perfume drifts away from you, but you can’t recall what you have said besides this good smell.
Detonator: Your recent account is scribbled. He wants to remind you to pay more attention and use your mind to work.
His subtext: “I don’t know if you have any trouble lately. Your account has always been wrong recently.
If there is any problem, please resolve it as soon as possible. I cannot tolerate this for a long time.
“Can’t eat, take a walk: You got such a superior relay at the end of the year:” The work is not serious, and there is still no improvement after being reminded.
-But heaven and earth conscience, you can’t remember anyway when and where he reminded you and what he said.
Looking at this tension, can you not equate him with hypocrisy and insidiousness?
Mine 3 will you shorthand?
“Will you join in the afternoon meeting?
“” Have you ever tried to use your brain while taking minutes?
“No, but I should be able to do it.
“” . At the afternoon meeting, you were concentrating on the replacement of other colleagues, and suddenly found that your boss was constantly winking at you.
You immediately wake up, he wants you to take notes.
You scrambled to start recording, but refused in your heart, “Hell, why don’t you say it earlier!
Detonator: You didn’t make a meeting record because no one asked you to do it.
Your boss will be indifferent to you within a few weeks, and guess in your heart whether you are unhappy with the company’s welfare if you are not willing to take minutes of the meeting, or you are doubting the importance of sexism, or . ca n’t eat itGo: next time he joins, he will ask other people to make a record, and soon, you will be transferred due to the overcrowding of the department.
And no one can ever tell you what it is.
Second, hypocrisy can be dangerous in the workplace!
The methods of these bogus bosses are really “yin”, “ruthless”, and “poisonous” enough to make people shudder when they think of it.
This kind of “Banjun is like a tiger” day, does not exhale people from high blood pressure, high blood pressure must scare out a nervous breakdown, worry about the disease or something.
So there is really no way to live a subordinate.
However, from another perspective, these bogus bosses are actually not so scary.
Their seemingly unreasonable performance is actually reasonable.
It is important that you recognize their psychological needs and treat them the way they want.
China MTI’s trainers replaced these people with “low authority performance”.
What does authority show? Authority means the attitude towards authority and conflict.
Each person’s authority performance scores are different.
People with higher scores insist on themselves at work, and can quickly express their opinions, speak openly, have a sense of competition, and have strength.
The people with the lowest scores are easy-going at work, prefer to suggest, are willing to win the favor of others, and avoid open conflicts. They are usually happy and approachable, and adopt democratic leadership.
Such are the false bosses around us.
False Boss’s Leadership Style-Give orders in the recommended way.
―Focus on relationships and be easy-going.
―When agreeing with others, they are more willing to ask for their opinions.
―Speak more if you are convenient.
The interpersonal relationships longed for by hypocritical bosses are misunderstood as hypocritical bosses, often sticking to the principle: “Be gentle when setting up a job, because even if you have a strict attitude, you cannot reduce the responsibility of subordinates.
In their view, it is not a good boss’ practice to imply that arrogance over the employees is superior. It is also impolite to regard subordinates as inferior, and it is not a good management method.
Therefore, they want to let the subordinates know what their problems are and what they should do with a gentle and friendly attitude.
Explicitly revealing short, rude orders would make them feel guilty-as if they had become arrogant, brutal slave owners 2000 years ago and deeply ashamed.
Therefore, they always try to make their own words gentle, and then more gentle, even to the extent that others cannot understand.
The killer against fake bosses In a relatively equal civilized society, everyone can express their views at the meeting, and the views of the boss, boss and customers will be specially recognized.
In a way, ignoring the authority of the boss is selected as the offense, which in most companies will be the reason for firing employees.
Therefore, as a subordinate, it is important that you communicate in the way they are used to.
If he says, “Apples in the orchard are ripe.
“He means,” I hope you pick in time.
“He did not mention a series of questions such as the time of picking, the number of people, the tools, etc., does not mean that he has not yet figured out what to do.
Actually he is waiting for you to take the initiative to confirm with him.
”I’m going to finish it in a few days?
“Where do I get the tools?”
“How many people can the company equip me with?
“. you have to keep making assumptions and get confirmation.
Put forward hypotheses and get confirmation.
What needs special attention is:-When he is listening to you and nodding frequently, it does not mean that he agrees with you, he is just saying, I am listening, I understand what you mean.
And if he agrees with you, you need to confirm with him again-he doesn’t like face-to-face conflicts, he doesn’t refute you, but it doesn’t mean he accepts your opinions-people with low authority are often very aggressive,It’s just that he behaves differently–the advice he puts forward is often what he wants you to do. Many young people in decent professional ethics think that they eat by their abilities and don’t need to cater to their superiors too much.
Sometimes, you have to deliberately act a little higher, to show that you are different, have the courage and strength to rebel.
However, as a qualified professional, it is not only a person’s responsibility to consider the feelings of others, including others, but also a manifestation of politeness and character.
According to Franklin: “Respect for the higher is out of function; respect for the same and the same is out of politeness; showing respect to someone who transcends yourself shows your character.
“So try to understand your boss’s personality and treat him in a way he likes.
This is not just a vulgar flattery, or another noble sentiment that is truly human.
If you think of obeying your superiors for some reason, this is not sincere enough, and it will turn into flattery.
If you are out of caring and consider your boss as an ordinary person to try to understand and accept, then your cooperation is a manifestation of noble sentiment.